The other side

All those years I have been cursing God for all what he has given me and all what he has not, And it was only today that I realized that I have been spared what could be a major source of morose in ones life.

The fact that despite my best efforts (having been put down badly a couple of times) and internal craving for that I have been so comprehensively unsuccessful at that, is not just something which I should carry along as bitter memories of these "hot blooded" days but this is something which should be cherished and nurtured as a lesson, as a divine gift. Though it feels bad to "fall" in love but when you turn around and see whats happening you promptly realize that its been for good. Now I don’t claim that its for all the people in this world but its been a general observation and I must mention that there are still people in this world who can, and have lived happily in love ever after without having friction or complications between them, throughout their life. But those are really few and really luckier ones. For the rest of us the truth has been a grossly bitter.

Being committed to a relationship is a difficult proposition for more than one reasons. Firstly you loose the freedom, believe me it’s something that has been acknowledged and thought over widely, though accepted a lesser number of times. Every time you go out and even by chance glance at some stranger even plaintively, gosh there you are your spouse is there gazing scornfully at you, for you have committed a crime in doing that.

Life becomes complicated, your problems double all of a sudden, you suddenly start spending too much and before you could put down a break on its already too late. Your free time vanishes and you are suddenly finding all or at least most of life confined to that Good old coffee shop where you go and spend hours with your love. Surely that ways life becomes a lot boring, I don’t know of how other people might think but for me its really hard to live like that.

Wait… the worst is still to come. Days, weeks, months and may be in some cases years fly away and then comes the darkest part of the whole story. Your partner has suddenly developed disinterest and wants you to free him of your spell. Really difficult, isnt it. And that’s the time you try to figure out where your yesterdays best friends have been. You need a shoulder to put your head while you weep and a hand to offer you the tissues (and of course and endless supply of tissue papers for you will need many of them).

I feel sad for all those people who have been through this, but this is what life is ups and downs. But if you examine closely the problem is not luck or life or anything for that matter, the problem in reality are we ourselves. We as humans have an inherent tendency to assume a lot of things, and then as if even that wasn’t sufficient we tend to build a whole universe of dreams on top of it. Our expectations rise and rise to the level that they cant be fulfilled, for nothing that has a physical existence is "ideal". And then when your partner fails to stand up to our expectations we feel bad, and then inadvertently things start moving in the wrong direction. We realize, but alas its late and the damage has been done.

So there you are friends don’t expect a universe from anyone, relax, chill out and enjoy what the present serves you in its golden plate, for past has past and the future is still to come. Don’t expect too much and be prepared to face anything. Who knows
… ki kal ka sooraz kaun kaun dekhega ?

Good Night

PS: The views mentioned here are the result of author's profound observation of the world around him.